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Let’s Talk About Woman Code

A few months ago, my dear sister and her beautiful daughter approached me about working on the website for their suddenly-exploding photography business. Trisha was about to take a giant leap of faith about her photography skills, and was taking Lindsay, and her amazing talent for photo editing, right along.

I’ve built and maintained websites for a very long time. Either by hard coding in HTML or using FrontPage to make a design more easily maintained by the site owner, I’ve been there and done that. But I’m a WordPress holdout of sorts. About a year

The past few months have been enlightening if you’re a woman.

We’ve seen countless high profile men come to terms with their behavior toward the female sex. We’ve seen brave women, sometimes even famous, come forward to tell their story of “me too.”

This got me thinking about “girl code” and everything that goes with it.

We women flaunt around this secret society of sorts. We preach about how we lift one another up, we don’t let another woman wear anything unflattering, we hold each other’s hair back if we’ve had too much of the good stuff, and we definitely don’t steal each other’s man. Heck, girl code goes so far as to have secret eye signals about food in teeth or a rogue nose clinger.

A couple days ago, my daughter and I were putting ourselves together to go grab a bite to eat. I yelled from my bathroom that I wasn’t doing much to myself – just throwing my hair up in a bun, grabbing leggings and maybe putting on some perfume so I didn’t offend anyone with my ode to “I just woke up like this.” She yelled back a quick “hell yeah” from her bathroom, so I knew she was on board.

Next thing I know, I’m hearing the rustling of her makeup brushes.

“Are you putting on makeup??” I yelled from my end of the house.

“Ummmm….” She’s soooo guilty.

“You said you agreed to only putting up your hair.” I reasoned, feeling the threat of stabby ire arising.

Her silence told me she was doing a lot more than throwing her hair up. Twenty minutes later, my foundation has been applied, eyebrows are coiffed, and my two favorite mascaras are perfectly brushed on for that perfect plump and lengthen.

That right there is girl code. We don’t let one bitch out of the house without making sure both bitches match glam.

Here’s the rub – girl code, and everything that goes along with it, is somehow secretive. Like, when you’re born into the femmedom, you suddenly somehow know not to blow your BFF’s ex ten minutes after they break up. You automatically know that you’re breaking code if you take a girl’s image and spread it around to everyone in an effort to make fun of her. (We pretty much think that girl should have her womanhood card revoked, because that’s just a bitch move.)

Girl code really transcends gender. It’s all about being a decent human being. You don’t steal shit that doesn’t belong to you. You treat people the way you want to be treated. And you look out for your fellow humans in the face of danger.

With this whole “Me Too” movement, suddenly it’s okay to bring girl code into the spotlight. It’s okay to talk about the shit that goes down behind closed doors, because on some level, each and every one of us women can relate.

If anything, the fact that we women weren’t speaking up about what we were battling is a breach of code in and of itself. Instead of coming to our girls for rescue, we hid our experiences in a shroud of guilt and shame. We felt like we somehow were to blame for what transpired. 

“I should have seen the warning signs.”

“I should have known he was bad news.”

“Maybe I did bring it on myself.”

I’ve had several instances of sexual harassment, from being told that I was hired only because of my looks to having a coworker harass me and a fellow coworker directly. She and I had a “Me Too” moment while chatting about work one day. All of the sudden, we were both shaking at the realization of what was truly happening. And let me tell you, blowing the whistle on a very influential man is not easy. I felt all the guilt and shame any one person could feel during that investigation, even by the line of questions from HR. Each day I sunk a little lower into the fear that I had somehow brought this on myself.

The “Me Too” movement has sparked a movement amongst us women. It’s no longer okay to feel devalued because we have a vagina. This doesn’t make us less of a person. Now it makes us even more valuable. And now it moves us lightyears beyond girl code into “woman code.”

We now have the opportunity to stand up to any egotistical, pompous asshole who dares believe we are less than and open to be taken advantage of. We are women. 

A girl is someone that hasn’t yet experienced real life. Sure, we can all categorize ourselves as girls. Hell, there’s even a country song about “meeting a girl.” And we’ve all heard guys joke about “their girl” with their buds. However, a woman is a higher power. A woman is beautiful, strong, confident, empowered, and exquisitely beautiful in her pure essence.

Right now, we are in a woman’s movement.

Right now, we are creating a woman’s code.

Right now, we women get to write the rules.

It’s time for change, ladies. Are you ready?

Me too.

Prepping for Your Boudoir Session

Prepping for your boudoir session is half the work! We know that you might be experiencing a truckload of anxiety in the days that lead up to your session, so proper preparation will help to make the entire process run smoothly.

You’ll arrive at our home studio with fresh hair and fresh face. What does this mean exactly? Fresh hair means washed the same day as your session – no exceptions. You’ll want to put in whatever product you normally use for curling and have your hair dry. Fresh face means clean, moisturized face with no stitch of makeup. Also, get comfy! Wear sweats or even pajama bottoms to the session, or anything that isn’t constrictive and could cause seam lines down your legs. (Darn skinny jeans!)

We stock over 100 pieces of lingerie in every shape, size, and style, shoes in every size, and a few statement necklaces for our clients to wear during their session. If you plan to wear any of our pieces, you’ll need to bring a pair of nude and a pair of black g-string thong underwear to wear underneath. (Victoria’s Secret stocks them.) Should you choose to bring any of your own pieces, be sure to bring items that you not only feel fabulous in, but that fit properly. Lingerie should be neutral in color – no neon, bright colors, or costume items. Jersies are not permitted. We find that they do not give off the overall vibe our clients are looking for, nor do they allow them to show off the amazing shape of a woman’s body. We want to give you the most shape we can and celebrate those curves! Leave the jerseys for those phone selfies!

Please shave, wax, and moisturize all areas that could potentially be exposed, and pay careful attention to feet to ensure they are groomed, clean, and nail polish is not chipped.

Please refrain from all tanning! We will not remove tan lines, and self tanners can leave residue on our garments.. We will not allow the session to continue should we discover that you have gotten a spray tan, as it can ruin our linens, furniture, and lingerie. Do not worry about having no tan or that your skin is pale. It is much easier to add and enhance skin’s radiant color than it is to take it away.

We suggest that if you plan to have your nails done, you use a neutral color like mauve, pink, red, brown, or black. Hands are everywhere in boudoir photography, and bright, neon colors tend to draw the eye. We also suggest you refrain from glitter, designs, and painting the ring finger a different color. Toes can be painted as well but we suggest that you follow the same rules.

Be sure to stretch before your session. We will have you arching and bending. Stretching helps to mitigate unavoidable soreness the next day.

Please make sure you are on time for your session, but no more than five minutes early. Tardiness will result in a shorter session, and we want to give you as much time as possible to achieve gorgeous images that will last a lifetime. A late arrival will cause inevitable missed shots.

If you have makeup ideas for our hair and makeup artist, please bring them. Know that if you haven’t had professional makeup done before, it will be much more intense than daytime makeup. You might look in the mirror and think she has gone overboard, but trust me – she hasn’t. Camera ready makeup is much more intense. If you don’t have any ideas on how you’d like your makeup done, simply let her perform her magic based on your wardrobe selections and your overall beauty.

While we understand there might be some anxiety leading up to your session and you may want to bring moral support, Sweet Nora Photography does not permit friends, relatives, or significant others to attend hair and makeup or the session itself. We want you to have the opportunity to let your guard down completely and not have an audience or feel embarrassed. Likewise, children are NEVER permitted.

We are so excited to work with you and create gorgeous, timeless artwork that represents how gorgeous you are!

Trisha and Lindsay

Prepping for Your Maternity Session

Prepping for your maternity session is half the work! We know that you might be experiencing a truckload of anxiety in the days that lead up to your session, so proper preparation will help to make the entire process run smoothly.

You’ll arrive at our home studio with fresh hair and fresh face. What does this mean exactly? Fresh hair means washed the same day as your session – no exceptions. You’ll want to put in whatever product you normally use for curling and have your hair dry. Fresh face means clean, moisturized face with no stitch of makeup.

As you’ve seen during your consult, we stock over 50 gowns for our clients to wear during their session. You’ll need to bring a nude strapless bra that is supportive, fits properly, and gives you the proper lift. You’ll also need to invest in a pair of nude Barely There thong underwear. These are the thin lycra based underwear with no seams. You can find them at Target, the Hanes outlet, Kohl’s, and most other major retailers.

Please shave, wax, and moisturize as you see fit. Several of our gowns are strapless, so keep this in mind when prepping. Please refrain from all tanning! We will not remove tan lines, and self tanners can leave residue on our garments.. We will not allow the session to continue should we discover that you have gotten a spray tan, as it can ruin our gowns.

We suggest that if you plan to have your nails done, you use a neutral color like mauve, pink, red, brown, or black. Hands are everywhere in maternity photography, and bright, neon colors tend to draw the eye. We also suggest you refrain from glitter, designs, and painting the ring finger a different color. Toes can be painted as well but we suggest that you follow the same

Please be sure to bring and plan to wear any jewelry that is important to you. If you are experiencing swelling and want to make sure you can still wear a wedding ring, Charming Charlie sells great stand-in bling!

Be sure to stretch before your session. We will have you arching and bending. Stretching helps to mitigate unavoidable soreness the next day.

Should you wish to have children in your images, please ensure they have napped and are fed. We suggest having them join in at the very beginning of the session or at the very end. This also applies to spouses and significant others.

Please make sure you are on time for your session, but no more than five minutes early. Tardiness will result in a shorter session, and we want to give you as much time as possible to achieve gorgeous images that will last a lifetime. As maternity sessions are outdoors, we cannot keep the sun from going down. A late arrival will cause inevitable missed shots.

If you have makeup ideas for our hair and makeup artist, please bring them. Know that if you haven’t had professional makeup done before, it will be much more intense than daytime makeup. You might look in the mirror and think she has gone overboard, but trust me – she hasn’t. Camera ready makeup is much more intense. If you don’t have any ideas on how you’d like your makeup done, simply let her perform her magic based on your wardrobe selections and your overall beauty.

We are so excited to work with you and create gorgeous, timeless artwork that represents how gorgeous you are!

Trisha and Lindsay

Contact Sweet nora

Sweet Nora Photography is a mother-daughter team where Trisha is your primary photographer, and Lindsay makes you your most amazing from behind the computer. We specialize in rustic and outdoor photography with modern styling. We love creative sessions that challenge us; if you have a dream or desire, ask us how we can help!

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